When men are really into you, they’re going to enjoy making you happy by taking you out. But whereas women feel special and taken care of when a man pays, when women take upon the role of spending money on men, it doesn’t make them feel the same way. Once the relationship is established, it’s OK for women to pay for coffee, or pay for the meal or cook on special occasions. That means that they ends up spending more money than the guy for dates. If women spend money to impress men by the way they look, then it’s really not fair to expect women to pay for their meal or ticket to a show. (Doing these things also make women feel better about themselves which will help their confidence during the date.) Women spend money on one or more of these things because if they are into you, they want you to be attracted to her. If she doesn’t express appreciation, that’s a good indication of her character that she feels entitled.Ĭonsider also that to prep for dates, women will spend money on makeup, manicures, pedicures, dresses, skirts, hair removal, and the salon. If you feel resentful of the money you spend on dates, that shows that you’re probably Just Not That Into Her.ĥ. If you’re interested in being something more, going dutch sends the wrong signal.Ĥ. It makes the woman feel special and taken care of.ģ. It shows that you have financial resources and that you are willing to share those with a lady.Ģ. Men, if you’re wondering why you should pay for dates, here’s why:ġ.
It’s not a matter of entitlement or punishment, it’s just a natural reaction that means “this guy is lame”. If he is OK with spliting, I loose any interest in seeing him again (tho typically I’ve already come to that conclusion anyway). The Rules would definitely disagree, but 0n the first date I reach for my purse when the bill arrives. The Rules say that women should not pay for anything on the first three dates. Some men get offended when women offer to pay for their meal, others are offended when they don’t. Who pays for the date gets to the core of the loss of the script and can elicit uncomfortable feelings. If he likes you, he’ll call again for a date. Don’t call “just to see how he’s doing” or with some other silly excuse. You’re not supposed to call men after dates that went well, either. (He’ll figure out he’ll have to call sooner.) But don’t reprimand him for not calling sooner by saying, “If you had called earlier…” Just say, “Really, I’d love to, but I can’t”.
Remember, you’re very busy with activities and other dates and you make plans ahead of time. It’s not that you’re impossible to get, you’re just hard to get. He has to learn that if he doesn’t ask you out when he sees you he might not reach you on the phone so soon and not see you for a week or two. Better to be alone than in a relationship like that. If you make things really easy for a guy, you’re never going to know if you’re with someone who really cares about you, or if he’s with you because he’s too lazy or apathetic to seek a mate. Don’t call him to talk or to ask him out. If he’s not calling you, he’s not that interested. This rule falls squarely under the “don’t chase men” premise.
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